Couples Counseling can be extremely benifical to the health of most relationships. Couples seek out counseling when they want to improve their relationship, or have become unhappy with their current relationship.
Reasons Couples Might Choose Counseling
Sometimes it can feel like a relationship is stuck in a rut and unable to move forward. Many people seek Couples Counseling because they are:
- Not feeling heard
- Feeling like needs are not being met
- Have unresolved conflicts
Even relativly good relationships can benifit greatly from couples therapy, in the form of improving intamcy and connection, or generally creating a more fufilling relationship.
Communication is genearlly where couples struggle the most in their relationhip. Often, couples get caught in unproductive communication patters that end up making both parties feel frustrated. The instict is the blame the other person, not realizing their intention is probably positive, but not communicated well. Couples counseling allows for discussion of negative communication patterns in a constructive way and building up the skills to communicate betting going forward.
Techniques We Use
Some of the techniques we use in couples counseling revolve around uncovering the real causes of distress in a relationship, repairing conflicts, and goal setting. In many cases, there are incidents in the relationship’s past that need addressing, as communication and behavioral patterns that need to be corrected. In some cases, we recomend the introduction of anger management training in order to avoid arguments becoming hurtful and tactless.
What is Pre-Marital Couples Counseling?
Pre-Martial couples counseling is a form of therapy that occures before marriage. Usually, a counselor will dig deep and revisit previous impressions you’ve formed about marriage before you are ready to tie the knot. It can be an exciting and worthwile process for you and your partner. In pre-marital counseling, you will work to define what marriage means to bother of you and make sure you are on the same page. You and your therapist might work on:
- Outlining your marraige expectations and role beliefs
- How your past affects your future together
- Your plans for resolving future conflicts
- Money management
- Techniques to avoid intimacy issues
- Healthy communication patterns
- Having (or not having) children
Each couple’s journey is different. If you and your partner apporch your marriage with openness and honesty, you wil fine your relationship to be far more fufilling for both of you. The more you know about your significant other, the easier it will be to say “I Do!”.
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